Is Your Husband Unhappy?

Helpful Tips on How to Love Your Husband Again

Although it may be difficult to admit, even to yourself, it may reach a point where you are no longer in love with your husband as you used to. Do you know that you may love your husband yet not be in love with him? Being in such a situation is very challenging. Should you continue living in a marriage where you are not in love, or should you call it off? The answer is that you should do neither.

As the saying goes, where there's a will there's a way. When you would like to rescue your marriage, you will be able to love your husband again. The most important thing is: when your husband is HAPPY you'll be happy as well. The following steps will help you to bring back the sparkle in your eyes and heart.

Take note of his positive qualities

One of the greatest problems that couples experience is being resentful towards each other. It is just not possible to mix love with resentment. And resentment usually starts when you focus on negative aspects.

You should therefore concentrate on his positive qualities if you want to save your marriage from breaking up. Every person has weaknesses. However, you should strive to concentrate on the things you love about your husband if you want to fall in love with him again. Don't start thinking about major feats. Perhaps there are many simple things that you genuinely love about your husband.

Now, go a little further beyond just thinking. Keep talking about these positive aspects when you speak about your husband. Avoid saying anything negative about him. The more you focus on his positive qualities, the closer you will feel towards him.

Consider his responsibilities

Another common source of frustration is when you feel that your husband has started taking you for granted. However, before you start turning negative about his apparent lack of concern, you should look at his responsibilities.

Putting all his responsibilities together may actually be weighing heavily on your husband. He has to look after his job and take care of his family.

When you consider your husband's responsibilities, you may realize that he is genuinely busy and is trying very much to attend to you. However, if you determine that he has the time but is simply not making good use of it, discuss the issue with him tactfully.

In case he has too much on his hands, find ways through which you can support him. As you look for how to make your husband happy and love you deeper, doing this will also draw him closer to you.

These simple steps will definitely help you get husband back

*WARNING*

Your marriage could be failing as you think of ways to talk to your spouse!
Find out ways to assess your failing marriage and take positive steps to resolve your problems and re ignite the passion you once had.

13 Ways to Keep Your Husband Happy

Okay ladies, we have already talked about what men can do to keep you happynow let's take a look a few things you can do to show respect to your hubby and keep him smiling.

1. After washing your beautiful locks, don't forget to pick up your hair from the shower drain. It may not bother you but he doesn't like untangling your hair from his big toe.

2. Be understanding of his work schedule. An occasional afternoon call to see when he will be home is fine but when you begin to stalk him daily at 5:01, his boss starts waiting for your call.

3. Let him play with his friends. As long as they are not 5'9, single, intelligent, beautiful and looking for a husband. Seriously, guys need guy friends to hang out with and do boy stuff. Your husband will be happier and won't be so impatient when your girlfriends call you during dinner, breakfast, lunch and sex.

4. Speaking of…, don't let yourself go. That doesn't mean you must maintain a certain weight or length of hair for the sake of your marriage, but it is a gesture of love to take pride in your appearance. You may expect the same from him and you both deserve a mate that is clean, showered, shaved and cares about their health.

5. Buy your own razor. Quit sneaking his razor out of his bathroom to shave your legs and underarms then attempt to conceal the offense by drying it off with his face towel so it doesn't get yours dirty and put it back as if you never used it. (Yes, I have personal experience and he always knows!!!)

6. Compliment him, genuinely and often. Let him know how much you appreciate the little and the big things he does for you and the family. Taking out the trash may be part of his "routine," but acknowledging his efforts will keep him motivated to continue.

7. Don't hide the credit card bills. Be honest with him, even if it hurts. It’s better to hear the truth from you than your creditors.

8. Take the initiative to practice random acts of kindness. Don't wait for Valentine's Day or his birthday to buy him a little "love gift" or write him a love letter. Hug him going out the door in the morning and coming back in the door at night. He's going to wonder what you are up to!

9. Don't talk bad about his parents or his siblings. It’s difficult to kiss someone that just called his mother a tarantula and his father an orangutan. Remember that he is an offspring of that union, which would make him a tarangutan and you the tarangutans bride.

10. Treat him like you did when you first started dating. Don't forget simple words such as "please," "thank you" and "excuse me."

11. Remember all those bodily functions you tried to keep discreet while you were in the throes of wooing him? Just because you have been married several years and are very comfortable around your beloved doesn't mean you can now blow, snort and pick to your heart's content.

12. Plan a date night to do something he loves, even if you don't. Instead of seeing the latest chick flick, compromise and see an action movie and go to dinner at a place you mutually enjoy. Have a couple of glasses of wine so you can sleep through the car chases.

13. Never go to bed angry. Cliché, yes, but true. A well-rested husband is a happy husband—it’s much better to go to bed next to someone that you can curl up next to, rather than someone you must put pillows in between.

10 Little Ways To Show Your Husband You Care

Before I even start the list, I will state the obvious; every woman already knows what to do to make her husband happy, at least for a short time. I am including it just so the men don’t feel cheated or think that I don’t understand what they really, really want. Make his favorite dinner occasionally. Bring him a beer when he’s watching the game. Take off your clothes. Anytime is fine.

1. Let him know you are his biggest fan. Tell him how great he is, how much you appreciate the little things he does to help you (no matter how small), and how much he’s loved. I am not suggesting you lie. If you are not his biggest fan, you should be!

2. It is best to avoid asking questions such as “What are you thinking about, honey?” Men hate this because they know they will get themselves into trouble if they tell you what they were really thinking. Or they can't remember.

3. Always speak highly of him to others. Don’t call up your best friend to tell her about his latest stupid mistake.

4. Don’t cut him down. It may be tempting to tell him exactly what you think of him during an argument, but hold your tongue. Deep down, somewhere, you love this man, and shredding him to bits will only make the situation worse. Don’t remind him of his weaknesses at every opportunity. Most men are fully aware of their weaknesses and do not need reminding.

5. Be quick to apologize for snapping at him when you are tired and cranky.

6. Listen to what he has to say. This may include topics that you neither understand nor care to be enlightened about, such as the rules of fantasy football or a comparison of programming codes.

7. Although it is widely believed that men are dogs, don’t treat him like one. Don’t attempt to keep him on a short leash, or even long chain. I know the idea of a shock collar (as used in dog training) is appealing, but really, he’s a big boy now.

8. Appreciate who he is and don’t try to change him. You knew who he was when you married him. Trying to make him into something different is: A. a waste of your time because it will not work and B. just annoying. He was flawless in your eyes when you first met. Is he really not good enough now? I know, you have grown and changed and expanded. Let him appreciate you, but stay the same.

9. Encourage his hobbies, even if you aren’t fond of them. My husband loves motorcycles. People are always saying things like “I can’t believe your wife let you have a bike” and “How could you let him do that?” Let him? That’s not how it is supposed to work. He is my husband, not my child. Yes, I worry. I ask him call to check in. I also love to see the smile on his face when returns safely from a nice long ride.

10. Don’t make fun of his team, even if they always lose. It is likely that your husband has been programmed since birth to be a fan of a particular sports team. This rule additionally applies to Star Trek and Star Wars fans. If your husband is still a fan of the band KISS, then you have permission to go wild with abuse