How to Deal With Adult Children

As your child grows and matures, the nature of parenting changes as well. The challenges of a toddler are different than the issues with a teen and the challenges of dealing with an adult child sometimes feel even more daunting. While your relationship and shared history with your child is everlasting, it is especially important to recognize that you need to deal with an adult as an adult, honestly and forthrightly

Step 1

Acknowledge that your relationship is changing. Remember at all times to be respectful and to keep communication ongoing. Discuss with your child your expectation of the same treatment.

Step 2

Set boundaries and clear expectations. Be clear about what you are willing to do to help your child and where you draw the line. It is unfair to both of you for you to say "yes" when you really need to say "no."

Step 3

Appreciate your child for the person she is. Trust her to accept the parameters you have set. Remember, you are no longer raising her.

Step 4

You will always be important to your child. What you do and say will always matter to him. Every adult prefers to be around people who are supportive and uncritical.

Step 5

Don't use guilt. Accept the realities of changing relationships. Be willing to compromise.

Step 6

Don't use money as a toll to manipulate your child. Give advice only when asked.