Best Homemade Face Masks For Oily Skin

Oily skin requires utmost attention. Oily and greasy skin easily catch dirt and scums from its surroundings. Moreover it’s prone to acne breakout. Oily skin tends to release extra natural oil, so needs extra care to maintain it clean, flawless and even-toned.

he excess oil production on your face, forehead, nose and chin can be due to wide open skin pores. Oily skin can lead to many skin problems, such as acne breakout, spots, blackheads, greasy lines on your face. In this article are given DIY natural homemade face masks to narrow your skin pores and stabilize production of natural oil, the so called sebum.

Natural Homemade Best Facemasks For Oily Skin

Read here best homemade face masks for oily skin natural recipes, and who knows you may be able to find here a best face mask recipe for your oily skin problems!! . 

Banana Face Mask For Oily Skin: This soothing face mask works best on oily skin. Take 1 fully ripe banana, 1 tablespoon honey and an orange or a lemon. You can keep ripe bananas in a freezer that you can use later. But thaw it before using.  Mash up the banana and add in the honey. Alternatively, you can blend them in a blender.  Mix in a few drops of juice from an orange or a lemon. Apply the mask on your face and leave it for about 15 minutes before rinsing with a cool absorbent soft washcloth or a steaming warm washcloth – as per your choice.  Follow with your regular moisturizer, if needed.

2. Bentonite Clay Oily Skin Homemade Face Mask: Bentonite, the so called Green Clay, Face Mask is a wonderful facial mask for oily and greasy skin. While talking of clay masks, there is no better clay than the green clay. Take 1 tablespoon of green clay, 1 teaspoon of apricot kernel oil and 3 drops of palmarosa essential oil. You can get these ingredients from a natural food or health store.  Mix these ingredients together. Mix in a few drops of warm water. If needed add in a little bit more of warm water to make a consistent, spreadable paste. Apply this facial mask and let it dry for say 10 minutes or so. Rinse it off with a warm washcloth.

3. Fuller’s Earth / Multani Mitti – Best Face Mask For Oily skin: Fuller’s earth oily skin face mask is very good in soaking oil and dirt from the oily skin surface. Fuller’s earth is an ancient time natural remedy to treat acne and pimples. It acts as a natural cleanser and very effective in acne breakout. You can remove extra shine, oiliness, greasiness with the help of clay masks, as they have oil reducing properties.

This oil removing face mask can be made easily at home with fuller’s earth (multani mitti) as a basic ingredient. Soak 2 tablespoons of fuller’s earth in warm water for half an hour. Mix in 1 tablespoon of rose water and a few drops of lemon juice. If you feel mixture is still thick then try adding some warm water to make it spreadable. You can add a tablespoon of milk to prevent over dryness.

This is best face mask to clean up your face, get rid of oil, impurities and dead skin cells from your skin. You can apply this mask two or three times a week.

5 Ways Mentally Strong People Overcome Rejection

Ever notice how being turned down stops some people from trying again, while others bounce back from rejection stronger than before? Everyone experiences the sting of rejection, but mentally strong people use that pain to grow stronger and become better.

Whether you were excluded from a social engagement, or you were passed up for a promotion, rejection hurts. The way you choose to respond to rejection, however, could determine the entire course of your future.

Here are five ways mentally strong people overcome rejection:

1. They Acknowledge Their Emotions

Rather than suppress, ignore, or deny the pain, mentally strong people acknowledge their emotions. They admit when they're embarrassed, sad, disappointed, or discouraged. They have confidence in their ability to deal with uncomfortable emotions head-on, which is essential to coping with their discomfort in a healthy manner.

Whether you've been stood up by a date or turned down for a promotion, rejection stings. Trying to minimize the pain by convincing yourself it was "no big deal" will only prolong your pain. The best way to deal with uncomfortable emotions is to face them head-on.

2. They View Rejection as Evidence They're Pushing the Limits

Mentally strong people know that rejection serves as proof that they're living life to the fullest. They expect to be rejected sometimes, and they're not afraid to go for it, even when they suspect it may be a long shot.

If you never get rejected, you may be living too far inside your comfort zone. You can't be sure you're pushing yourself to your limits until you get turned down every now and then. When you get rejected for a project, passed up for a job, or turned down by a friend, you'll know you're putting yourself out there.

3. They Treat Themselves With Compassion

Rather than think, "You're so stupid for thinking you could do that," mentally strong people treat themselves with compassion. They respond to negative self-talk with a kinder, more affirming message.

Whether you got dumped by your long-term love or blindsided by a recent firing, beating yourself up will only keep you down. Speak to yourself like a trusted friend. Drown out your harsh inner critic by repeating helpful mantras that will keep you mentally strong.

4. They Refuse to Let Rejection Define Them

Mentally strong people don't make sweeping generalizations when they're rejected. If one company turns them down for a job, they don't declare themselves incompetent. Or, if they get rejected by a single love interest, they don't conclude they're unlovable. They keep rejection in proper perspective.

One person's opinion, or one single incident, should never define who you are. Don't let your self-worth depend upon other people's opinions of you. Just because someone else thinks something about you, doesn't mean it's true.

5. They Learn From Rejection

Mentally strong people ask themselves, "What did I gain from this?" so they can learn from rejection. Rather than simply tolerate the pain, they turn it into an opportunity for self-growth. With each rejection, they grow stronger and become better.

Whether you learn about areas in your life that need improvement, or you simply recognize that being turned down isn't awful as you imagined, rejection can be a good teacher. Use rejection as an opportunity to move forward with more wisdom

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Reponding to Anger in Children

Several weeks ago, I had to pick up my elementary school-aged daughter early from school for her annual flu shot. I made the appointment as late in the day as I could, to accommodate my work schedule and to minimize the time she would miss from class. As most parents can attest, there was a lot of shuffling and hurrying involved, but I multi-tasked, I juggled, and I was feeling good about having “fit it all in.”

Until I arrived at school.

The school staff was nice enough, welcoming me as I signed my daughter out and speculating on what a treat it would be for her to have a bit of an early dismissal from school. I agreed; a visit to the pediatrician’s office was never the most fun but some extra one-on-one time with my girl would be a treat nonetheless.

Until she saw me in the hall.

Rather than running to me for a hug or even smiling and saying “Hi,” she had what I can only describe as a meltdown. One minute, she was walking toward me, the next, she was dragging her body forward, propelled only by tears and heartfelt accusations: “You always make me miss everything fun! I don’t want to go! I’m not going! This always happens. You always make me leave! I never get to stay for the fun things.”

Wo. I did not see that coming.

I felt my heartbeat quicken instantly. I knew my face was getting red. Defensive thoughts were taking over my brain (“Do you know how hard I worked to rearrange my entire day for you! What do you mean I ‘always” make you miss the fun stuff? I bend over backward to do fun things for you, young lady. How dare you yell at me after all I do for you!”) I was extremely aware that the eyes of all of the school staff who had just greeted me so warmly were now completing fixed on me and my pending response to my daughter. I knew in that moment that I had two choices:

1. I could go old school and tell my daughter to lower her voice right away and show me some respect, or else…

This might even have been a reasonable parental response. I don’t think anyone in the school would have thought me unjustified in being stern with my daughter at that point or in setting a limit on her disrespect. But I also knew that for my daughter, a rebuke in the moment would have created a new stressful event, on top of the one she was already obviously experiencing, and would have triggered all sorts of additional intense feelings in her young, emotionally-hijacked brain. Meeting her pain with harshness would have made things worse—of that I was sure.

2. My second choice was to turn down my daughter’s invitation to fight.

Instead of turning up the heat on her behavior, as option 1 would have done, I made a conscious decision to tone down the emotion of the moment—to meet her pain with sympathy—and help her begin to put language to all of her emotion.

When kids become overwhelmed by stress, their limbic system (the emotional part of their brain) is activated and their ability to access the rational thoughts of their pre-frontal cortex (the logical part of their brain) is greatly hindered. In the midst of this kind of “brain freeze,” adults are most helpful to young people when they recognize the biological forces at work and make conscious efforts to “drain off(link is external)” the child’s intense emotions through purposeful, planned, non-reactive responses.

So what did I do as my daughter walked down her school hallway, angrily accusing me of taking away all of her fun?

First, I took a deep breath. I am human and needed to take a moment to consciously stop my own emotional brain from taking over. My personal feelings acknowledged and owned, I then got down on my daughter’s level and hugged her. I spoke these six words softly to her: “You are really upset right now.” In little more than an instant, she pulled away from the hug, looked me in the eye, let out one long sob, then softened into my arms, pulling me into a tight embrace. After about 15 seconds, she was completely quiet, but still hugging me tightly.

Coinciding with the onset of her stillness, the school nurse walked over to us both. She had been standing observing the whole interaction and, seeing the pause in the action, approached us with a well-intentioned, but premature response, aimed at the logical part of my daughter’s brain: “Your mom is trying to keep you healthy. What would happen if you didn’t get a flu shot?” she asked.

My daughter’ sobs started up again. Big time. The nurse smiled at me and mouthed the word, “Sorry.” I smiled at her as she backed away. She was trying to do the right thing and I knew it. My daughter’s emotional brain just wasn’t calm enough yet to process it. So, in the middle of the administrative wing of my daughter’s elementary school with a growing audience watching from afar, I gave her more time. I hugged her. I wiped her tears. I validated her words instead of giving in to my defensive leanings: “You feel like I am picking you up too early and you are missing fun time with your friends in class.”

These calming responses worked. My daughter softened in my arms again and within two minutes, she was ready to leave school and head to her doctor’s office. She got her flu shot that afternoon—and didn’t even cry!

What if I had opted to go old school? Would that really have been so bad? I know there is a large group of people who argue that “parents today” are “too soft” on kids; that what young people need is more discipline and less concern over their emotions. I might concede to this group that the first option I outlined above—telling my daughter to lower her voice and show more respect—would have been appropriate for the situation in the school hallway. Yet the problem with this response is that it would have missed an invaluable opportunity to connect with my daughter in a meaningful, lasting way, helping her develop critical life skills such as the ability to calm down, control her behaviors, and put language to emotions. In other words, to practice all of the skills she needs to become a healthy adult.

Does that mean I think adults should tolerate disrespect by young people? Should emotional and behavioral outbursts be encouraged for the sake of personal growth? No, of course not. Please do not misunderstand me. I am a social worker, for goodness sake; my poor kids endure “learning experiences” all of the time. Indeed, I made it a point to talk to my daughter about the disrespect she showed me in the hallway at her school, but I did it later in the day when she was in control of her emotional brain and more receptive to learning.

Point of fact: by waiting until she had thoroughly de-escalated from the emotional intensity of those dismissal moments at school, I didn’t even have to do much of the talking. About an hour after leaving school, my daughter came to me and initiated a conversation about what had happened, saying, “Mom, I’m sorry I yelled at you in school. Mrs. S was letting us watch a movie and I just got so upset about having to miss it that I couldn’t even see straight.”

See straight? Think straight? Either way, after the emotions had settled, she was clearly getting the picture. Bottom line: some moments kids can use their logical brains and other moments they can’t—especially during periods of stress. Having an awareness of this is important because it helps adults make better choices when it comes to responding to the emotionally-charged outbursts of kids—choices that build kids' critical skills for self-regulation

 and emotion management in their developing young brains.

How to Stop Smoking

Here is a simple, 5-step how to guide to quitting cigarettes forever.

Step 1: Motivating yourself to quit.

Step 2: Preparing yourself to quit.

Step 3: Quitting.

Step 4: Coping with cravings and withdrawal symptoms.

Step 5: Coping with failure.

Let's do it.

Step 1. Motivating yourself to quit

Make a list of the pros and cons of smoking. Here is an example of such a list: yours might be slightly different.

Pros 

- Makes it easier to socialize with other smokers

- Makes me feel more confident in social situations

- Provides me with momentary gratification

- Prevents cravings and withdrawal symptoms

Cons

- Constant nagging from my partner and friends

- Bad breath putting my partner off

- Constantly having to go outside, even in the cold and rain

- The rancid smell on my house and on my clothes

- The effects on my health: sore throat, cough, shortness of breath, high blood pressure, stomach ulcers

- The effects on my appearance: looking 10 years older, yellow teeth, yellow fingernails, yellow skin- Intense cravings and withdrawal symptoms if I don't light up

- Always needing a fix and being unable to simply relax and enjoy life

- Feelings of inadequacy for not giving up

- Fear and anxiety about what I am doing to myself and how it will all end

- Guilt for the passive smoking endured by those around me

- The exorbitant cost of it all, especially the fact that I can never afford a holiday

Step 2. Preparing yourself to quit

Keep your list on your person and read it several times a day to motivate yourself to quit. Choose a date on which you want to quit and stick to it. Between now and that date, keep a log of your smoking habits: record the times at which you ‘light up’, where you then were, what you were doing, and how you were feeling. Use this log to gain a better understanding of your smoking habits.

Step 3. Quitting 

Once your chosen date arrives, make a clean break by throwing out all cigarettes and removing all ashtrays, lighters, and matches. You are then likely to experience intense cravings together with withdrawal symptoms such as irritability, difficulty concentrating, tiredness, headache, increased appetite, and insomnia.

Step 4. Coping with cravings and withdrawal symptoms 

Nicotine replacement can help to relieve these cravings and withdrawal symptoms, so do ask a physician to prescribe some for you. Cravings rarely last for more than a couple of minutes at a time and diversion techniques such as chewing gum, brushing your teeth, or playing a video game may take your mind off them until they pass. If these diversion techniques fail, call a friend or relative who knows what you are going through and is willing to give you some support. Alternatively, take another look at your list of pros and cons and use it to keep yourself motivated. Cravings are often triggered by certain places, activities, and emotions that you have come to associate with smoking. Use the log of your smoking habits to identify these places, activities, and emotions, and try to devise alternative coping strategies.

Step 5. Coping with failure 

Remember that cravings and withdrawal symptoms do not last forever, and that in a matter of only days quitting will have become a much easier task! Do not be too harsh on yourself if you give in to temptation: put it behind you and keep on trying your best.

7 Ways to a Healthy and Happy Relationship

Here's just a little primer of 7 signs of a healthy relationship.

1.  Mutual Respect

 If you don't have this - well, it's going to be a tough road.  This doesn't mean you agree with everything your partner says or does.   It does mean that you have admiration for each other, and steady undercurrent of love and trust throughout your relationship. You also have each other's back.

John Gottman, a pioneer in studying couples and marriage, could tell within minutes whether a couple was in it for the long haul or if they weren't going to make it - with startling accuracy.  How could he tell?  If there were any signs of contempt in the couple's interaction with each other, the relationship usually didn't make it.  

Abuse, whether it is physical, verbal, or emotional, defies mutual respect in every way, shape and form.  You have to have mutual respect to have a healthy relationship. 

2.  Arguing, Not Fighting

I've never seen a healthy couple that doesn't argue.  They never fight, however - they argue.  If a couple comes into my office and tells me they've never argued, something isn't quite right.

You can argue without fighting.  Arguing is non-combative - you and your partner state your points of view without name-calling or raising your voice.  Sometimes you agree to disagree - and that's okay.   Figure out what your "non-negotiables" are - the things that you will not budge on.  Now rethink that list.  I like the saying "You can either be right, or married."  Hopefully you and your partner's values (see #6 below) match up pretty well - that makes things much easier!

I'll do another post on how to have a healthy argument.

3.  Agreement on Sex

You're both okay with how often you have sex, how you have sex, where you have sex...and there's mutual participation.  Sex is not withheld as a punishment.  And if you or your partner are not comfortable with an aspect of your sex life, you can talk about it openly, without criticism.

You also find time to have sex.  I don't care how busy or tired the two of you are - there isalways time for sex.

4.  Agreement on Parenting

There are bascially three main styles of parenting:

a) Authoritarian: The rules are the rules are the rules.  No exceptions.

b) Authoritative: This is what I refer to as a "Benevolent Dictatorship".  There are rules, and kids can give their input, but the parents have the final say.

c) Lenient or "Lassiez-faire": There are minimal rules. 

If the two of you don't agree on a parenting style, you need to talk.  Also, if you differ on whether your children should be spanked or not - you need to talk. 

You may have each grown up with different parenting styles - and we each tend to parent the same way we were parented.  If you don't have kids yet but are thinking about it, you must, must, must have this conversation with your partner.

People can change their personality styles.  A lot of that depends on # 6 (below).

5.  Equality with Money

Even if one of you makes more money than the other,  you both have an equal say about where your money goes.  There are no "hidden accounts", and you decide together before you make large purchases. 

If you are the one in charge of the bill paying, you pay the bills on time.  Period.  If you can't pay the bills on time, turn over that job to your partner or hire someone to do it for you. 

You decide on separate accounts if sharing a joint account is getting too complicated or frustrating.  Does that hurt the intimacy of a relationship?  No, it actually helps your intimacy.  You are no longer fighting about money.

6.  Common Goals and Values

Couples with very different interests can have healthy relationships - what counts is that they share common goals and values.  Couples of different religions (or non-religion) and cultural backgrounds can have healthy relationships - what makes a healthy relationship is sharing core beliefs.  You may both share the belief that giving back to your community is important. You may both share the belief that extended family members are welcome to live with you at any time.   Values and beliefs differ for everyone.

Common goals include intangibles like raising happy and healthy children, and tangibles like saving up for a house.  You can work together on setting one-year, five-year, even ten- and twenty-year goals.  Working towards something together strengthens your bond.

7.  Fun

"Sexiness wears thin after a while and beauty fades, but to be married to a man who makes you laugh every day, ah, now that's a real treat." - Joanne Woodward

Enough said.  Make time to have fun.  Life gets too serious without receiving regular doses of humor.